Writing your own vows can be intimidating. Baring your soul and exchanging intimate promises to your partner in front of friends and family at one of the wedding halls in Omaha is daunting. But it’s also magical, meaningful and touches the hearts of everyone in attendance. Exchanging vows that you and your partner personally wrote can wind up being one of your favorite parts of your wedding.
If you are up to the challenge, here are some tips you can use to write your own vows:
1. Finalize a format with your partner
It’s always a good idea to discuss the general tone and format of the vows with your partner. This way, you both know what to expect, and no one looks silly the day of your wedding. Go over the general length they should be, if they are going to be funny, personal, or a mixture of both and if you guys are writing them together or separately. This is also when you can decide if you are going to be hearing these vows for the first time at one of the wedding halls in Omaha, or if you will share them beforehand.
2. Journal your thoughts
When it comes time to start brainstorming ideas, the best thing to do is to take some quiet time with yourself and journal your thoughts about your relationship. Put pen to paper and write it all down. They don’t have to be full blown sentences at this point, they can just be bullet points. Think about:
What made you fall in love with your partner?
When did you decide you wanted to marry them?
What do they do for you in the relationship?
What’s the greatest thing about them as a person?
What promises do you want to make to them?
What do you hope they will promise you?
While you are journaling, you can also take some inspiration from movies and quotes and jot down what resonates most with you.
3. Pick two or three of the most important points
You might have pages and pages of ideas once you complete step number two. The next step is narrowing it all down. It will be impossible to include all of your feelings and promises, so stick to two or three of the most important ones.
4. Avoid absolutes
When narrowing down your ideas, avoid words like “always,” and “never,” Hard absolutes like that are impossible to live up to. It’s easy to promise perfection, but much harder to deliver.
5. Read it out loud
Most of us are not professional speakers and so practicing your vows outloud can make sure it's easy to say and sounds good to your ears. You can find out if there are any tongue-twisters and where are good places to take breaths and leave in pauses. You can record yourself speaking out loud and listen back to it, or ask a trusted friend to listen in and give you pointers.
6. Don’t leave it for the last minute
The last and most important tip is to not leave it for the last minute. In order to write the most meaningful vows that you can read without any obstacles, it’s best to get them written at least two weeks before your wedding date. You’ll be thankful that this is checked off your list when the wedding anxiety hits.
The Club at Indian Creek is one of the best wedding halls in Omaha and we also have a ceremony space for couples! Our golf course can serve as a beautiful backdrop to you when you say your personalized vows. Contact us to learn more!